Wednesday, September 30, 2015

What is Marriage?

If you have read my story in Where's My Mate?, you know that I have been through several bad relationships including divorce. However, when I married "God's Way" according to His word, I now have been happily and successfully married for over 14 years.

"Marriage" as defined by the world, is not marriage as defined by the Bible. There are no loopholes. Teaching and writing Bible Studies for single Christian's over the years has lead me to study what God' definition of marriage is, and is not.

If you want an unhappy, unsuccessful, unfruitful life, then you should view marriage as this:

"It's just a piece of paper"

"The law says we are married because we have been living together for over a year."

"The law says marriage can be two men together or two women together."

"We are married in our hearts, we don't need a piece of paper to show our love!"

"I know I am legally married to someone else, but I'm truly in love with _____ and who can stand between true love?"


The word "Marriage" originated from the Bible and God is the one who designed marriage. He gave Adam, Eve. So unless you are married the way God intended for you to be married,you WILL NOT have the full measure of God's blessing on your life. You will suffer one way or another in the relationship. 

Bethany, I want a marriage blessed by God! A marriage that will be happy and full of joy, bearing fruit of the Kingdom of God. What do I do?

First, God says you are to marry a believer. This means another Christian. A Christian is someone who believes Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior AND the only way to heaven:

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 2 Corinthians 6:14

And you are not to marry any "believer", the Apostle Paul tells you what type of believer:

 I wrote you in my [previous] letter not to associate [closely and habitually] with unchaste (impure) people—Not [meaning of course that you must] altogether shun the immoral people of this world, or the greedy graspers and cheats and thieves or idolaters, since otherwise you would need to get out of the world and human society altogether! But now I write to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of [Christian] brother if he is known to be guilty of immorality or greed, or is an idolater [whose soul is devoted to any object that usurps the place of God], or is a person with a foul tongue [railing, abusing, reviling, slandering], or is a drunkard or a swindler or a robber. [No] you must not so much as eat with such a person.What [business] of mine is it and what right have I to judge outsiders? Is it not those inside [the church] upon whom you are to pass disciplinary judgment [passing censuring sentence on them as the facts require]? God alone sits in judgment on those who are outside. Drive out that wicked one from among you [expel him from your church]. 1 Corinthians 5:9-13 AMP

The Apostle Paul commands Christians to NOT associate with someone who calls themselves a Christian but is guilty of immorality (in the Greek text this is sexual sin), greedy, in idolatry  (praying to someone other than God), foul tongue (cussing, gossip, slander), drunkard, manipulator, liar or thief. Paul warns the Corinthian church to not even eat with someone like this. So if you are not to associate or even eat with someone who calls themselves a Christian and is in blatant sin, then you certainly do not marry them!

Second, you are to be joined together in COVENANT where there is a "leaving and cleaving". This is why in weddings the Pastor says "who gives this woman in marriage?" and takes you through marriage vows where you verbally and in front of witnesses make a COVENANT before God and man to "forsake all others" and "with this ring I do wed". Read what Jesus Christ said:
But Jesus responded, “He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your hard hearts. But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation. ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Mark 10:5-8

Jesus Christ said "a MAN leaves his father and mother and is joined to his WIFE."? Jesus Christ said marriage is between ONE MAN and ONE WOMAN. I know in some countries the man made law says that marriage can be defined as being between two women or two men. However a union like that WILL NOT be blessed by God. Nor is it considered marriage in the eyes of God. God is subject to HIS word, not our ever changing legal system. The Apostle Paul calls homosexuality vile and sinful:



So God let them go ahead into every sort of sex sin, and do whatever they wanted to—yes, vile and sinful things with each other’s bodies.  Instead of believing what they knew was the truth about God, they deliberately chose to believe lies. So they prayed to the things God made, but wouldn’t obey the blessed God who made these things.That is why God let go of them and let them do all these evil things, so that even their women turned against God’s natural plan for them and indulged in sex sin with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sex relationships with women, burned with lust for each other, men doing shameful things with other men and, as a result, getting paid within their own souls with the penalty they so richly deserved. Romans 1:24-27
Third, you are to also obey the legal laws according to your land concerning marriage. Usually this involves obtaining some sort of legal document.  This is where you get the term "legally wed" from:
Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God. Consequently, whoever rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves. For rulers hold no terror for those who do right, but for those who do wrong. Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and you will be commended. Romans 13:1

My husband and I were legally married in the "Sight of God and Man" on July 7, 2001.