Friday, November 10, 2017

Why don't they like me?

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, Philippians 3:13

REJECTION. Something NOBODY likes to deal with. But unfortunately it happens. Especially in romantic relationships. Yes, I have a successful marriage of over 16 years, but before Lucas, I experienced many rejections. I also rejected many men.

I know it hurts. And you ask, What did I do wrong? The answer is, maybe nothing, or maybe something. Usually if you truly did something wrong, the other person will let you know. However, many people are walking around with unhealed hurts, strongholds and most already have a mate list in their head. (Which is one of the many reasons I encourage people to write out a mate list so they can bring clarity to what/why they want!) If you don't match their list in their heart, usually that causes problems.

Sometimes rejection of a romantic interest comes because of timing, the other person isn't ready. Or you are not ready.

Where is God in all this? Why didn't He answer my prayers for this person to change and love me? I rolled that question around several times when I had a marriage dissolve in my early twenties. Now, looking back about twenty years later, it is pretty obvious why the marriage didn't work. And God was definitely not to blame. However it is hard to see when you feel your prayers are not being answered and God is taking things in a totally different direction against your will!

However, keep the faith. Keep moving on. There is someone for you! Spend time in the presence of God today, lifting up your hurt and pain. Ask the Holy Spirit to heal those wounds in your soul. Get a supernatural healing from the Lord, so you can be healed. Pray asking the Lord Jesus Christ to bind up your heart where it has been broken:

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3

Sometimes you have to let go. Truly let go of a relationship so that God can move you to where you belong.

If you have not read my book Where's My Mate? along with the Bible study Want to Find Your Mate? please do so. I also have a devotional called Preparing for a Mate. I promise these tools will lead you through healing so you can have a happy marriage to the person God has for you!